Without considering the repercussions of our choices, we act on what’s most rewarding in the immediate.
I coached a young Biokineticist, who was running a practice, for her Boss who was on maternity. Each and every instance of their interaction was bitter. The words and associations were bitter. Although, I only heard one side of the story, the same theory applies. The repercussions of achieving the short-term goal, required the boss to be a bitch. You can only imagine the repercussions to the practice and the moral of the staff member. And after all their interactions of achieving short-term goals, not once, did the Boss look up and see the long-term progress in the business and reward or compliment the staff member.
Without the power of a simple “Thank you”, or to the extent of this case, “how are you?”. The practice and the relationship never flourished. There was scope for the practice to expand and become popular within the community, drawing on surrounding gyms and schools, but the relationship started to rot.
Once the relationship, was irreparable, because the employee had since learnt that her Boss was in fact denying her own failures, the blaming someone else, only then did she realise the power of her position in the company and the mediocrity of the practice thats stood.
With this power, the employee had learnt what to look for when approaching a new job, and so sailed onto finding a job much more rewarding. Not financially, but emotionally. With supporting staff and encouraging Bosses, who wouldn’t hesitate to take her call or offer advice.
I caught up with her recently, and the first thing she said, was that, ‘I got a thank you’. She was elated, and felt the warmth of appreciation shared by the boss.
Simply because of these and many other interactions, she’ll have no reason to look for a job elsewhere, all be because she was thanked.